Should children care about their parents money problems?
November 5, 2008
Noel P asked:
I am a 12 year old and once again my parents have been quite quiet to eachother, from my perspective and last night my mother slept in my room, while my dad slept in their room. I didn’t want to disrupt either of them so I decided to take the couch in the living room. This always happens most of the time because they have some money worries / problems. Should kids really worry about their parents? Like mine?
I am a 12 year old and once again my parents have been quite quiet to eachother, from my perspective and last night my mother slept in my room, while my dad slept in their room. I didn’t want to disrupt either of them so I decided to take the couch in the living room. This always happens most of the time because they have some money worries / problems. Should kids really worry about their parents? Like mine?
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November 7th, 2008 at 1:31 am
Money issues shouldn’t even be on your radar. Your biggest money concern should be if you have enough money for a movie ticket AND popcorn.
If your mother and father don’t want to sleep in the same room due to money issues (weird) she needs to sleep on the couch-not in your room.
November 8th, 2008 at 2:17 am
Not at all. Adult problems are not only nothing to do with you but they are wrong to make you worry.
Try to remember that these problems your parents have are problems that MOST families have. It is normal and they will sort it out – that is their job.
Your job is to be happy, enjoy your young life and grow into a mature responsible woman who will then unfortunately probably deal with the same issue when you are older.
It is the cycle of life!
November 9th, 2008 at 3:26 am
No you should not have to worry about money problems.
But if you are worrying you should talk to your parents about it, if you don’t feel like you can talk to your parent you can talk to another trusted adult like a grandparent or your teacher
November 11th, 2008 at 2:26 am
that is very unfair that your parents behave that way.
dr phil says that kids should not have to deal with adult issues.
i wish i had some advice for you… but i wish you luck with yoru situation.
November 12th, 2008 at 11:37 am
children shouldnt have to worry about money, or any other adult problem for that matter, a child goal in lie is to be happy and relatively worry free while learning the ropes for being an adult, kids should be allowed to live their life without having to mess with adult problems, they will have enough of their own when they are older
November 15th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
Hey, I think its perfectly normal for kids to worry about their parents, no matter what the problems are. I think you must be a good kid to care about your parents enough to worry about them.
Yes, you should care… but try not to worry, it might stunt your growth!
November 16th, 2008 at 4:59 pm
No parents i think should keep their problems to themselves. Because then it gets the kids all wound up and worried. I myself have a first hand experience with that.. I grew up with not a lot of money so money was always an issue. My parents are now split up and my dad hasn’t paid for child support in probably about 2 years. My mom was yelling at me the other day about how its my fault and my responsibility to get child support from my dad. its stupid and she makes me feel like crap about myself.
November 18th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
I think kids naturally worry about their parents and what goes on with them. Kids are affected by what is going on in the house. Should you worry about it? I don’t think so. If you are affected by what is going on, I would talk to your parents and let them know how you are feeling. Sometimes, we as parents don’t realize how are kids are affected by our behavior. Take care.
November 19th, 2008 at 2:10 am
It’s normal that you would, but it’s not right that your parents bring their adult world into yours. There is NO reason your parents should be sleeping in separate bedrooms while their child is sleeping on the couch worrying about problems that shouldn’t be on their radar.
November 19th, 2008 at 4:03 am
No! This is between you and your parents. Don’t stress about it, it’s not your problem. If you want to help, you can do little things around the house for no charge. If you have an allowence, don’t accept it. Instead, make money buy babysitting other children. Remember, your parents love one another. They are just going through hard times. Remember if you ever have a question, don’t be afraid to talk to them, a close friend, or even a social worker (I know your probably saying “ya right” but it’s just a thought).
November 22nd, 2008 at 6:56 am
No you should not have to worry about their money problems. You should not have to give up your room because they cannot get alone. They are the adults and they need to act like it.
November 24th, 2008 at 2:33 am
No, you should not be concerned because it is their responsibility to make sure that you are well provided for.
However, at 12 you are old enough to understand that if your parents say you can’t have something/ go somewhere because they can’t afford it, they are saying so for a good reason, not because they are trying to be mean.
Help them around the house when you can; this should at least improve their mood and can help ease some tension. Don’t become a maid or slave or anything, but you know what I mean. Do your share and do it with a cheerful heart. You’ll make them (and yourself) happier by doing so.
God Bless!
November 25th, 2008 at 6:01 am
you shouldnt of even know about their problems and they shouldnt bring you into it either,,
but now that you do know dont worry yourself about it as your their first priority so dont worry about that but just have in mind that if they say no to something you want like a school camp or else then respect that
goodluck and dont worry